Love and Hearts….Today's post:  Tuesday, 2-13-2018

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Tomorrow is February 14, Valentine’s Day.

I’ve long thought that it is really 3 holidays in one!

Every February 14, we celebrate:

*Love and caring.

*Helping your heart be strong, stay strong and healthy – and heal if it is hurt. 

                                              (That’s why February is US National Heart Month.)

*Love making and pleasuring your lover.

1.  Love and caring.   This is having warm and happy feelings and feeling your lover is special for their strengths and good actions and good values. They feel you find their real self special and know them.

In her book SuperBetter, Jane McGonigal suggests many ways to remember these good things about your significant other or lover; ways to touch or speak to them to do this.

She makes the point that when people live together there are always discomforts and sudden problems.  You misunderstand something or your significant other breaks something or the weather causes a bad delay or worse.  Some people even call days with extra events like this bad hair days.  A wise woman I once knew told her kids, don’t bug me today if you can avoid it, I’m really grouchy today!

Jane McGonigal even says it’s important to notice these instead of ignoring them!

Her trick to a good relationship, her action strategy, is to make a few good things happen for your significant other each day so there are always more good things than bad. It doesn’t take a lot some days.  One bad thing and three good ones works.  Two bad ones and four good ones works. And the good ones can be really fast to do often.

Do something they ask you to do when they ask you to do it even if it takes some effort and flexibility on your part.

Give them a warm smile and feel warm towards them.  Give them a hug.

Truly want good things to happen to them and for them.  Help them enjoy their favorite things even if some of those are not your favorites.

*Do the things that make YOU feel better and avoid the things that make you feel irritable or depressed.

We covered how to do that in our post last Monday, 2-5:  Good friends & relationships protect your health.

Do things that make you and your friends and family feel good and enjoy being together.  

Avoid the foods and drinks and oils that make you irritable and depressed.  Take omega 3 oils and the omega 3 DHA and live a low inflammation, health supporting lifestyle so the omega 3 oils work better.  The omega 3 oils not only make people a lot less irritable, they even do so when the people getting them don’t realize they are less irritable or why!

This makes your love life and your enjoyment of your friends and family work much better!

2.  Helping your heart be strong, stay strong and healthy – and heal if it is hurt. 

These same actions reduce your inflammation and your harmful small particle LDL and your triglycerides and oxidized lipids. They boost your protective HDL too!

Two other things you can do are slash or eliminate your use and intake of canola oil and to do the other things you aren’t already doing that reduce your risk of heart problems FAST.

[See my post:  Fast Heart Protection without drugs….Tuesday, 1-9-2018

          AND see the comment I added with additional ways to cut heart disease risk within day or a few weeks to very, very low!]

a)  Despite having some plant derived omega 3 oils, canola oil has been found to increase mental impairment recently.  (That study was on Medical News Today and other sources recently.)

This is because of the high level of inflammation boosting omega 6 oils in Canola oil.  The processing chemical residue, and the easy oxidation of the omega 3 oils in processing with high heat and in any cooking done with canola also produce this effect.

The researchers who did this study who did not know these things about canola were surprised.

The people who knew these things about canola oil were not surprised. 

Extra virgin olive oil, avocados and organic and unprocessed tree nuts for those not allergic to them avoid these problems.

So do saturated fats from coconuts, chocolate, and milk, eggs, cheese, butter, and meat from animals fed unpolluted grass and other of their natural foods.

Omega 3 oils from wild caught fish and seafood and the purified omega 3 supplements and DHA omega 3 supplements do the opposite of what canola oil does!

b) Dr Al Sears saw this canola oil study and gives the history of how canola oil was & is processed and rebranded industrial rape seed oil that contains erucic acid that causes heart lesions. 

A separate article, see below, says the amount now of erucic acid in canola oil is a trace amount. 

BUT far less of a harmful ingredient is NOT as good as oils which have NONE!

Because of this and the processing chemical residues –

and its pro-inflammatory high omega 6 content—

and the plant omega 3 that gets easily oxidized—

 and the small amounts of hydrogenated oils formed by the high processing heat, canola oil is NOT a good for you oil and should be avoided if at all possible.

https://www.westonaprice.org/health-topics/know-your-fats/the-great-con-ola/

This article has the history as well.  It also says that canola oil does tend to be harmful by causing the stiffening of your cell walls from the oxidized plant omega 3 oils.

It says that eating canola with some health OK saturated fat prevents that stiffening.  (You can also take PS a phospatidyl serine supplement, which softens cell walls as an antidote.)

The best way to protect your heart from these harmful effects of canola oil is to stop using it or severely minimize eating things that contain it.

3.  Love making and pleasuring your lover.

One way is to create good feelings and get in synch with your lover’s mood.

When this is done well enough you can ask and hear and do what is most pleasing, that works really well.

Another way is to do the things that protect your heart very well because the resulting good blood flow to the sensitive areas increases their ability to function and to transmit pleasure to you!

(We just listed many things that do this!)

The third way is to do the right regular exercises!  This works for men and, surprisingly, it works as well or better for women.

Effective strength training causes testosterone release in both men and women.  It is less in women but it’s enough to make a difference.

Of more importance is that effective strength training and safely done yoga cause you to feel your body and focus on how it feels.  When you are at work or doing errands or chores, you don’t have this focus.  By doing these exercises you develop your ability to feel your body and give those parts of it extra blood flow. 

This transfers very well to love making!