The many ways a coach or support site can help you reach your health goals....
Today's Post: Monday, 1-9-2012
To reach a health goal takes many steps and many kinds of steps.
A good coach or support site for the health goal you choose can help you with each of these steps.
Here are some of them.
1. You have to know what to do. You have to know what not to do or to stop doing.
It can be very helpful in empowering you to learn and keep doing these steps on your own if you also find out why to do these things.
2. In many cases you have to learn HOW to take the steps necessary. And, it helps a lot to have help learning how.
It can be very helpful to have a coach or support site explain how to make each of these actions easy to learn or easier. It can be very helpful to know common mistakes beginners make and how to avoid them or what to do to overcome them if you make them.
3. But the two most important ways a good coach or support site can help are two related steps.
For most health goals, you need consistent action to get to and keep your health goal. You have to make your actions effective. And, you have to keep doing them to reach your goal or keep it.
So helping you keep going and keep going even when you mess up or feel like quitting is critical.
It’s profoundly important in fact.
In every kind of achievement the people who succeed make a strong focused effort on the most important things when it counts most. AND they do this extra when they mess up or feel like quitting.
It’s even why whole societies do well or not.
David McClelland at Harvard found 3 key variables that explained which societies and economies did well or not.
One he called “hard work.” The actual data show that this was completely inaccurate. People can work hard and long hours and fail. Though doing so can be helpful sometimes.
So what was this mislabeled third factor?
He used themes in children’s stories that predicted effects when they grew up.
And this third factor every time was that the characters in the story or historical real people made a strong focused effort on the most important things when it counted most. AND they did this extra when they messed up or felt like quitting.
That’s focused extra effort when it counts most -- NOT just hard work in general.
But with challenging goals and for people who haven’t yet learned this skill, you can get de-railed or prevented from doing this.
In a newspaper article in the Magazine section of yesterday’s San Francisco Chronicle, the staff writer had a great way of putting this.
A coach who knows what’s possible for you better than you do will insist you make the extra effort and cheer for you when you succeed despite your initial doubts.
“Agony turns to euphoria when it turns out the coach was right.”
And,
“When we fall, it’s the coach who picks us up, let’s us wallow for a minute, then gives us the perspective and encouragement to try again.”
That way you get both parts. You make an extra effort and succeed. And if you don’t quite get there, your coach helps you make an extra effort to continue even when you feel like quitting AND gives you hope you will yet succeed and strategies to make it more likely.
One book points out that many people who succeeded in reaching their goals, did this exact thing. They made a strong effort that failed. But they tried again also with a strong focused effort and their real success began when that second effort worked.
(Of course, another writer calls the successful style experimental persistence. They keep their goal and persist in trying to reach it. But they will stop using methods that don’t work and test others that might.)
A good coach or support site for the health goal you choose can help you with each of these steps.
That’s why if you can get a mentor or coach or personal trainer or support site that is skilled and works well with you, it can dramatically increase your chances of success!
If you already are doing somewhat well on your own, they can double your chances of success. And if you know less and are just beginning, they can multiply your chances of success by twenty or more!
Today's Post: Monday, 1-9-2012
To reach a health goal takes many steps and many kinds of steps.
A good coach or support site for the health goal you choose can help you with each of these steps.
Here are some of them.
1. You have to know what to do. You have to know what not to do or to stop doing.
It can be very helpful in empowering you to learn and keep doing these steps on your own if you also find out why to do these things.
2. In many cases you have to learn HOW to take the steps necessary. And, it helps a lot to have help learning how.
It can be very helpful to have a coach or support site explain how to make each of these actions easy to learn or easier. It can be very helpful to know common mistakes beginners make and how to avoid them or what to do to overcome them if you make them.
3. But the two most important ways a good coach or support site can help are two related steps.
For most health goals, you need consistent action to get to and keep your health goal. You have to make your actions effective. And, you have to keep doing them to reach your goal or keep it.
So helping you keep going and keep going even when you mess up or feel like quitting is critical.
It’s profoundly important in fact.
In every kind of achievement the people who succeed make a strong focused effort on the most important things when it counts most. AND they do this extra when they mess up or feel like quitting.
It’s even why whole societies do well or not.
David McClelland at Harvard found 3 key variables that explained which societies and economies did well or not.
One he called “hard work.” The actual data show that this was completely inaccurate. People can work hard and long hours and fail. Though doing so can be helpful sometimes.
So what was this mislabeled third factor?
He used themes in children’s stories that predicted effects when they grew up.
And this third factor every time was that the characters in the story or historical real people made a strong focused effort on the most important things when it counted most. AND they did this extra when they messed up or felt like quitting.
That’s focused extra effort when it counts most -- NOT just hard work in general.
But with challenging goals and for people who haven’t yet learned this skill, you can get de-railed or prevented from doing this.
In a newspaper article in the Magazine section of yesterday’s San Francisco Chronicle, the staff writer had a great way of putting this.
A coach who knows what’s possible for you better than you do will insist you make the extra effort and cheer for you when you succeed despite your initial doubts.
“Agony turns to euphoria when it turns out the coach was right.”
And,
“When we fall, it’s the coach who picks us up, let’s us wallow for a minute, then gives us the perspective and encouragement to try again.”
That way you get both parts. You make an extra effort and succeed. And if you don’t quite get there, your coach helps you make an extra effort to continue even when you feel like quitting AND gives you hope you will yet succeed and strategies to make it more likely.
One book points out that many people who succeeded in reaching their goals, did this exact thing. They made a strong effort that failed. But they tried again also with a strong focused effort and their real success began when that second effort worked.
(Of course, another writer calls the successful style experimental persistence. They keep their goal and persist in trying to reach it. But they will stop using methods that don’t work and test others that might.)
A good coach or support site for the health goal you choose can help you with each of these steps.
That’s why if you can get a mentor or coach or personal trainer or support site that is skilled and works well with you, it can dramatically increase your chances of success!
If you already are doing somewhat well on your own, they can double your chances of success. And if you know less and are just beginning, they can multiply your chances of success by twenty or more!
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