Valentine’s Day tips....
Today's Post: Monday, 2-14-2011
Today is Valentine’s day.
It’s icon is the red heart design.
It’s theme is love.
Love can be caring, affection, warmth, and a good relationship with someone special to you. So Valentine’s day is about that kind of love
Since sex often works best in such relationships or starts them, Valentine’s day is often about sex.
And, since you literally feel affection physically at times in the chest or while hugging someone one you love, for hundreds of years love has been associated with the heart. The American Heart Association often promotes heart health in February for this reason.
So, we have three posts this week on those 3 subjects.
Today’s is mostly about the love that’s caring, affection, warmth, and a good relationship with someone special to you. (Some of the ideas also work well for setting the mood for affectionate sex.)
Since our focus is health, the next post will be about how good health habits make for better sex.
And, the third one will be about protecting your heart. (That’s important for the first two parts also since a healthy heart allows you to stay around longer for the love that’s caring, affection, warmth, and a good relationship with someone special to you. AND having a healthy heart is a key way to have better sex.)
So, here’s our Valentine’s day tips.
Whatever things causes you to feel the love that’s caring, affectionate, and warm towards the person special to you, remember it.
Do that just before you look at them today. Do that just before you give them whatever card or gift you have for them. Do that just before you take them out to dinner or to bed if you plan that or do it.
It helps long term relationships to remember to do this a few times most weeks too.
Affectionate love and sex both rely on touch. So, when the person who is special to you is in a good mood or even better, you both are, a touch can really help.
What if your Valentine is someone you have been with long enough the new, “thrill,” part is gone or at least less intense – or the pressures of the day or this time in your life are a bit much?
Then something that people do who stay together can help you. You know this person well enough there are things they are good at – including things they are better at that you are many times.
Take a few seconds and remember those things. Think about why you are happy this person with those strengths is in your life and you are pleased they are.
This can be really helpful and is often very helpful if they are grouchy or have been under stress and a bit hard to be around.
Whether or not your relationship is new or decades old, the better you yourself feel and the more you match your behavior to theirs, the better your day will go.
So, remember reasons why you are doing well or areas where you are even if many areas are not. Remember things in the past you are still thankful for and things in your present you are happy with.
Be quickly and gently responsive to your valentine. And, do it in a warm manner with a happy feeling in your heart.
Granted this is far easier sometimes than others, but the better you can do it, the better things will go.
Lastly, if you are a man and your valentine is a woman and you want to have your relationship continue, do these two things to the very best of your ability.
Pay close and detailed attention to what she asks you to do. Then do it as soon and as well as you can manage. That is sometimes more than a bit challenging to do, BUT the better you do it and the more reliably you do, the longer you will be together and the more she will credit you with caring about her. (There are many things that good relationships share at least in part. But studies actually found this one is essential.)
The second one is where you are doing something for her that you think she will like but are not totally sure. Simply check with her. Say "I think you’d like" and say what you think she might like. Then say, "Is that right?" Or "Is that what you’d like?"
That way if it’s something you’d like in her place and she wants something else or she does like it but wants something else more or wants that thing but at another time instead, you know how to proceed without messing up!
Best of luck to you in your efforts today!
Today's Post: Monday, 2-14-2011
Today is Valentine’s day.
It’s icon is the red heart design.
It’s theme is love.
Love can be caring, affection, warmth, and a good relationship with someone special to you. So Valentine’s day is about that kind of love
Since sex often works best in such relationships or starts them, Valentine’s day is often about sex.
And, since you literally feel affection physically at times in the chest or while hugging someone one you love, for hundreds of years love has been associated with the heart. The American Heart Association often promotes heart health in February for this reason.
So, we have three posts this week on those 3 subjects.
Today’s is mostly about the love that’s caring, affection, warmth, and a good relationship with someone special to you. (Some of the ideas also work well for setting the mood for affectionate sex.)
Since our focus is health, the next post will be about how good health habits make for better sex.
And, the third one will be about protecting your heart. (That’s important for the first two parts also since a healthy heart allows you to stay around longer for the love that’s caring, affection, warmth, and a good relationship with someone special to you. AND having a healthy heart is a key way to have better sex.)
So, here’s our Valentine’s day tips.
Whatever things causes you to feel the love that’s caring, affectionate, and warm towards the person special to you, remember it.
Do that just before you look at them today. Do that just before you give them whatever card or gift you have for them. Do that just before you take them out to dinner or to bed if you plan that or do it.
It helps long term relationships to remember to do this a few times most weeks too.
Affectionate love and sex both rely on touch. So, when the person who is special to you is in a good mood or even better, you both are, a touch can really help.
What if your Valentine is someone you have been with long enough the new, “thrill,” part is gone or at least less intense – or the pressures of the day or this time in your life are a bit much?
Then something that people do who stay together can help you. You know this person well enough there are things they are good at – including things they are better at that you are many times.
Take a few seconds and remember those things. Think about why you are happy this person with those strengths is in your life and you are pleased they are.
This can be really helpful and is often very helpful if they are grouchy or have been under stress and a bit hard to be around.
Whether or not your relationship is new or decades old, the better you yourself feel and the more you match your behavior to theirs, the better your day will go.
So, remember reasons why you are doing well or areas where you are even if many areas are not. Remember things in the past you are still thankful for and things in your present you are happy with.
Be quickly and gently responsive to your valentine. And, do it in a warm manner with a happy feeling in your heart.
Granted this is far easier sometimes than others, but the better you can do it, the better things will go.
Lastly, if you are a man and your valentine is a woman and you want to have your relationship continue, do these two things to the very best of your ability.
Pay close and detailed attention to what she asks you to do. Then do it as soon and as well as you can manage. That is sometimes more than a bit challenging to do, BUT the better you do it and the more reliably you do, the longer you will be together and the more she will credit you with caring about her. (There are many things that good relationships share at least in part. But studies actually found this one is essential.)
The second one is where you are doing something for her that you think she will like but are not totally sure. Simply check with her. Say "I think you’d like" and say what you think she might like. Then say, "Is that right?" Or "Is that what you’d like?"
That way if it’s something you’d like in her place and she wants something else or she does like it but wants something else more or wants that thing but at another time instead, you know how to proceed without messing up!
Best of luck to you in your efforts today!
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